Negativity | How NOT to be an asshole

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Sometimes we have those days – where everything pisses us off and we don’t have time for anybody or anything.

I know I’m not alone.

Sometimes, we even allow these negative emotions to seep into our lives and affect the ones we care for most – even when we don’t mean to.

We’re all allowed bad moods from time to time, but what I’m learning is to not take out my personal issues on others when it isn’t warranted.

You know what I mean.

You’re having a really tough time, due to stress about work, bills or other things in your daily life that may have seemed to pile up on you.  Although completely understandable, what must be understood is that EVERYONE is dealing with something at one point or another.

Taking your issues out on others not only makes their day worse, but it can also disrupt the peace in other people’s lives and really doesn’t make you feel any better at all anyways.

In many cases you will probably end up feeling worse if like me, your conscience never takes a damn day off!

What we can practice in times like these is to breathe.

Yup!  That’s it!

Breathe.

Take a deep breath, relax and attempt to grasp an understanding of what exactly it is that’s bothering you and instead of taking out on others, perhaps try talking it out with someone.

I find that most people would like to help you, even if it’s advice or a reassuring word.

Before you get consumed in that fire of negativity you feel boiling in your gut, take a breath and quench that beast with some compassion for others and yourself!

Nine times out of ten it will work, or at least diffuse that bad boy some before it becomes an all out inferno!

Be easy

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Mess.

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noun \ˈmes\

: a very dirty or untidy state or condition

Today I almost allowed myself to get swept up in some mess.

It involves some neighbors, but interestingly enough, it did NOT involve me.

Yet, both of the parties involved have found it necessary to try and place me in their situation.

Needless to say, this predicament leaves a sour taste in my mouth because as always, I try to be of help to anyone I can, but definitely not at my own expense.

One very important thing I’ve finally learned is to set boundaries with people.

Allowing others to get close, but not too close for my comfort.

I draw the line at being involved in anyone else’s personal relationships.

I certainly do not take well to people placing me in their messes without my consent.

Through all this I know I must remain still and allow the world to shape itself (thanks I-Ching) and also let it be known respectfully but sternly that I DO NOT, under any circumstances want anything to do with what is going on in someone else’s home.

As long as no one is being physically harmed, I’m out.

Now, a kind word, listening ear or compassionate shoulder to cry on?

I’m your girl!

BUT – don’t get carried away.

My kindness is most definitely not the green light for bullshit.

Tonight, I’m taking a nice hot shower and washing this grimy day off of me.

And tomorrow, my mind will be anew, it will be settled and I will handle all things with kindness, grace and compassion.

I will also protect myself from the nasty energies culminating next door.

Time for some sage 😉

Be easy

Wisdom & Understanding | Applying life’s lessons

Today I felt bad stress for the first time in months.

It was more an annoyance with the way things turned out, but it manifested itself through stressful symptoms/reactions that left me tightly wound and with a headache.

I was very stressed.

Well, very for me anyways.

I guess it’s a result of having a productive stress that I didn’t mind at first.

It helped me to be driven and to get things done.

But today, it felt like…ugh, it just felt awful.

The good news is, after I got home and was able to reflect during my sunset prayer/meditation session, I was able to understand where I went wrong in my day, among other lessons learned today.

It’s times like these when I feel so grateful to still be here experiencing this thing called life.

Being older, something that people in our (Western) culture tend to shun, is something I find great wonder and awe in.

Accumulating all the knowledge of your lifetime up to this point, and applying it to your life – avoiding mishaps because of lessons learned from the past.

Life is such a beautiful thing!

Tomorrow, I know the things that are supposed to happen, will happen!

Que sera, sera

Be easy ✌

Karmic Law | What’s your karmic FICA score?

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In light of a few things that have been going on in my life lately, I’ve been meditating on Karma for a minute.

I’m curious as some things catch up to some people so quickly and others, they just seem to rack up negative karmic debt and keep on rolling on with  little to no consequence.

I mean, pure evil.

Abusive – to everyone.

Sociopaths.

I digress…

I put conscious effort into not only my karma, but the karma of those I encounter daily.

I do not want to spread any negative vibes.

I try to notice when I am moving into a negative place and I withdraw a little – not anti-social like I used to, but just a little.

I don’t visit people’s homes and stuff like that.

Negative energy lingers and I try to get out of the house and walk around a store, around the park – SOMETHING to difuse the negative energy coursing through me.

You gotta let it out – don’t allow it to get trapped in.

But also, don’t spread it to others!

Negative energy is like a virus.

It needs a host to facilitate it’s ‘thing’.

Quarantine works – but you have to know how to do it,

I guess I was in the mood to jot down some of my current thoughts.

Maybe just to look back and see where my head was at in this moment in my life one day.

Or maybe even feedback?

Who knows.

Be easy

Tough Times and Menstrual Cramps? | There’s a tea for that!

It’s been pretty rough in my personal life since last week and to add to things my monthly showed up yesterday and you know what that means…

Cramps!

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Having menstrual pain makes dealing with stressful personal issues even tougher.

Thankfully, the hubs and I concocted a tea for menstrual cramps that really works!

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Here’s what you’ll need:

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*(most of these items can be found in your local grocery store but the more exotic ones can be found here in my Amazon aStore.  The linked products lead you to purchase.)

Bring approx. 12 oz of water to a boil and throw in your sliced ginger root and turn down to med-low heat, pour in your olive oil and simmer for 20 minutes.

Meanwhile, take your crushed mint leaves, maca powder, bagged chamomile flowers and garcinia powder and place them in your mug.

Once your ginger has simmered for 20 minutes or so, pour the hot ginger tea into the mug with your powders, flowers and leaves and let seep until it’s cool enough to drink without burning your mouth.

You can also add some type of all natural sweetener to your tastes – I usually don’t sweeten my teas.

Give the tea around 15-20 minutes to kick in and start soothing away your cramps.

While you wait you can give yourself a uterine massage to help with the pain or some menstrual cramp friendly yoga moves.

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In regard to my tough week + weekend…

I’ve been fighting hard not to fall into a depression – I don’t feel as if I am, thankfully, but it’s still tough to stay positive and centered in the midst of trials.

I’m thankful that I have been disciplined when it comes to eating right and doing my daily yoga and my daily gratitude prayers at sunrise and sunset as well.

It helps me a lot and I am certain is what is keeping my moods from sinking too low.

There are moments though, that I feel sad and negative about things, but I understand this is just the process I am going through to get past it, make sense of it and learn from it until it passes – because it will pass!

I may not have all the answers, but I know that time heals all things so right now, time is my friend and I am going to try embracing this experience and make decisions on my future with a calm and gentle heart.

I’ll just keep eating good and clinging to my yoga – my refuge.

Not to mention, keep drinking this tea!

My annual 12 week 'Everything Cleanse' starts tomorrow!

My bestest friend and the love of my life | Why I’m in love with ME

love of self is essential

I like me, so I do favors for myself.

I’m easy on myself when I’m feeling vulnerable and I never put myself in situations I don’t want to be in.  Well, not purposely anyways.

Why?  Because I like me!

I think I am a pretty awesome human being.

I understand myself and why I do the things I do.

I make myself laugh and I really enjoy spending time with just me.

I wish more people felt the same way about themselves because once you get to know YOU, you’ll stop searching for that missing thing that was inside of you all along.

Seek peace and pursue it

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